Be upfront with your new love about your own parenting ideas. Realize that any disagreements you and your significant other have now will only be magnified once you both live under the same roof with children running around.
Q: My husband and I seem to never agree on money decisions. I want to get things under control and it seems like he doesn’t care. How do we get on the same page? Rachel: When it comes to personal finance, most of us fall into one of two categories. We’re either a nerd […]
It doesn’t really matter why you find yourself on your own with the kiddos – or how long this stretch of single-parenting looks like it will last. The principles we’re going to talk about are the same. And I’m only going to give you three steps to take because, really, your life is complicated enough.
There are vast differences in how divorce affects children and families. I’ve found it to be immensely helpful to the parents to hear directly from the children. The truth is that all parents love their children, worry about their children, and want to do what’s best for them. Often during a divorce, though, they are so caught up in their own emotional hurt and pain, they can’t see how their behavior is affecting their children.
When most people hear the words “graceful” and “divorce” in the same sentence, they think to themselves, “Yah, right!” But Sandra Bullock’s handling of her situation is exactly that. She has modeled a “graceful divorce” for the rest of us.
We hear the phrase all the time – “in the best interests of the children” – but what does it really mean? And who gets to decide that? When a couple is divorcing and they cannot agree on the issues of custody or visitation, a judge will have to decide, and he or she will use a standard called “the best interests of the children” in making that determination.
So what exactly is collaborative divorce? In the simplest terms, collaborative divorce is a way of divorcing without going to court. Clients sign a contract at the beginning of the case agreeing that they will not go to court and that they will settle all issues related to their divorce in a series of face-to-face meetings with their collaborative lawyers or teams.
What I’m finding in my practice, mostly because of the current economy, is that people are looking for the least expensive way to settle their issues and to reach a final divorce. They may have lost their jobs or been downsized. Many have little or no equity in their homes now, and the amount of credit card debt is staggering.