What do I say to my kids when they seem consumed with worry and despair for their futures and when tragedy cuts down innocent lives? When leaders demonstrate behaviors that I work hard to steer my children away from and demonstrate intolerance where I want to teach them tolerance? And in their day-to-day lives when […]
Researchers at University of California, Los Angeles, recently found that verbalizing one’s negative emotions (like fear) helps a person to actually feel less of that emotion. So how can a parent use this information...
You have probably heard the term “cutting” and likely have some misperceptions about it. Most of us cannot fathom that someone would willingly cause pain and harm to their own body. What is cutting and why do teens do it? The type of cutting we are talking about here is when someone, usually a teen, […]
Kids who “turn to drugs,” as the phrase goes, don’t do it to be delinquent or even to experience the high or buzz. The first time is more social or experimental. And once kids are past the first time, the second time is easy. That’s why using is such a risky business.
In America’s big cities, the high school dropout rate is as high as 50% and it’s not much better in rural areas either. Even though education is important as the first step towards getting a job that pays a decent wage, half of the kids who start high school as ninth graders don’t finish all […]
We call it “sibling rivalry” but mostly this is sibling bickering. Kids engage in sort of a low level of sniping, bothering and sabotage that grates on adult nerves. How can you lower the level of antagonism between your kids and get them to settle their own affairs most of the time?
In the summer of 2009 my daughter joined the YMCA co-ed soccer league. One of her teammates was a boy named Hayden. Hayden’s mom, dad, grandma, grandpa, aunts and uncles all gathered every Saturday morning, decked out in burnt orange, to cheer Hayden on. But Hayden hated soccer.
Parents who learn how to “translate” teenage behavior will be able to understand and respond in ways that are more effective and more loving.