Do you dread the time between when your kids get home from school and dinnertime?
Are you having trouble getting your kids off the couch? Do you want your children to make better grades in school? Be more physically active? Join a sports team? Or participate in a service project? Motivating a child or teenager isn’t always easy, but if you follow the three steps below you are almost guaranteed to discover a whole new child:
For children, who are learning how to make decisions intelligently, being bribed short-circuits this development....The child who does something because she will be rewarded is unable to see past the reward to the true values the rewarded actions support. She is a less-moral person.
When my oldest daughter was about 8 months old, she got over-stimulated and grabbed an adult relative hard enough to cause pain. We pulled her off, apologized, went into another room and helped her calm down. About 20 minutes later, I apologized for my daughter's behavior again to my relative. Her response surprised me.
Are you frequently bothered by your kids’ behavior and frequently angry at them? Do you imagine that your children behave worse than the kids next door?
Our own worry and struggle can be shared with others. We just have to choose wisely someone even more distant from the problem than we are.